A woman in a Facebook group for people with food allergies wrote 2 long paragraphs about how none of her family members cared enough to buy her a birthday cake that was safe for her to eat. They’d bought her grocery store cakes before, but she can’t eat them.
So instead of finding an allergy-safe bakery, her family gave up.
Her birthday was the following week, and she was sad because no one would buy her a cake.
Everyone deserves to eat safely, free from fear of anaphylaxis or other allergic reactions. (My son is deathly allergic to peanuts, so I can totally empathize with this woman’s frustration.)
And we all want to feel loved and appreciated – especially on birthdays.
But what struck me about the post was the woman’s seeming helplessness.
She was less upset about her family and more upset that she wouldn’t have a cake.
As if she wasn’t a grown-ass woman with her own money who could buy herself a cake. Or make one.
Instead of taking her happiness into her own hands, she was miserable waiting on other people to make her happy.
But guess what? That’s not their job.
You, chicky, are responsible for your own happiness.
And when you take responsibility for your own happiness, you become more confident.
I hear versions of that woman’s story all the time:
- “I love flowers but my spouse/partner/housekeeper never buys them for me.”
- “I want to try this new restaurant, but I don’t have anyone to go with.”
- “I’d love to visit Greece, but I don’t want to travel alone.”
You don’t have to wait for other people to fulfill you.
This Valentine’s Day (and every day) love yourself enough to:
- Buy yourself the flowers.
- Make your own cake.
- Go to the restaurant, movie, or exotic island by yourself.
YOU are worth it. Not ONLY if the experience can be shared. Not ONLY if someone else does it or buys it for you.
What have you been putting off because you’re waiting for someone else to do it for you?
Just do it.
You don’t need to wait for other people to validate you.
You don’t need their approval or participation.
Do it for you.
Because you’re worth it. 💜
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